SHOULD WE SPANK OUR KIDS

[foxbaron]

Do you spank them or just hug the little boogers and give them a "time out"?

At what point does it become child abuse?

Is it child abuse?

Did your daddy ever smack your ass and did you grow up hating him forever because he did?

Did you ever wish he had whipped your butt growing up so you wouldn't have turned out to be the asshole you are today?

Inquiring minds want to know.

[doctordog]

I was very hard headed, hated authority, and need a spanking probably once per week just for an adjustment.

I whipped my son 3 times, once for lying, once for being mean to an animal, and once to disrespecting his mother after we were divorced.

Overall his attitude is much different though. You could tell me "no" and I would think about the punishment and then do it anyway. My son could get yelled at and cry.

I think it depends on the character and feelings of the child. One thing is for sure, if whipping your child for behavior modification it should never be done while the parent is angry.

[Binky]

Actually, in all honesty, I can only remember getting my butt spanked once. That's the honest to goodness truth. I was 16. Yep, a teenager and I had ran my mouth about whatever, to my mom. I had sassed her a darn good one and she'd had enough. :lmao2:

I took off outside and she followed me, with a belt, and chased me all around the baseball diamond in the school yard across the street from our home. While running in circles, she managed to catch up to me and cracked me a couple of good ones on the back of my legs, leaving an imprint of the belt buckle. Ouch, that hurt like heck...but what hurt the most, was the fact that the neighbor kids were all standing around watching and laughing their butts off. My pride had been seriously wounded....:lmao2:

After that experience, I never opened my big mouth again and sassed my mom. For being a teenager that age, you'd of thought I'd used my common sense and just keep my mouth shut. But noooooooooooooo. I had to cause trouble for both she and myself....

Go figure! :lmao2:

If I recall correctly, I have only spanked my kids a couple of times each when they were younger. And believe me, my son was hell on wheels. That boy was in trouble all the time trying my patience.

When they misbehaved, I most always sent them to their rooms, without a single thing to occupy them. So they'd lie down and nap......:lmao2:

By todays standards, I suppose it is abuse. But back then, spanking was the thing to do. And you know what? I even managed to live through it to haunt all of you.......

[Hog Trash]

Whether or not a child gets spanked is up to no one except that childs parents.

It is especially not the business of the government...They have to much sayso already.

We should be concentrating on taking power away from the government, not giving them more.

[Moby]

I've never had to spank my daughter and I've always been able to teach her to do the right thing. When given a situation she almost always chooses the one that could be considered right.

I was lucky enough to be working from home most of her life so I'm sure that helps.

However, I agree with Hog, it's really not the government's concern unless it creates a medical condition.

Of course I'd feel like failure if I had to hit my kids and couldn't reason with them. That's my choice.

[Hog Trash]

I've never had to spank my daughter and I've always been able to teach her to do the right thing. When given a situation she almost always chooses the one that could be considered right.

I was lucky enough to be working from home most of her life so I'm sure that helps.

However, I agree with Hog, it's really not the government's concern unless it creates a medical condition.

Of course I'd feel like failure if I had to hit my kids and couldn't reason with them. That's my choice.Anytime a spanking "creates a medical condition" it becomes abuse or in legal terms a crime of 'assault'.

On a child it should be 'felonious assault' because even a hand can be a deadly weapon to a child.

[disrupter]

I was spanked as a child.
Probably we kids sometimes deserved it, sometimes we may have driven dad to distraction [especially while driving, crowded in the car].

It was always solely on our asses.

Sometimes children can become completely detached &/or imagine the Universe does or should revolve around them. They have to understand there are other people in the Universe who have at least as valid an existence as their own. Pain is not a 'purifier' [ala Dobson] but it does bring a certain reality to people [sometimes including ourselves] who are veering out of touch. We are requisitely sensitized to pain for fundamental self-preservation.

There are probably better ways of raising children under ideal conditions,
but there is no instruction manual or 'required training course for raising children.

If you ever strike a kid on the face or joints where you could injure or damage them you are getting out of line. The gluteus maximus is a large simpler, pure muscle. I think it is therefore less subject to lasting damage.

Ass spanking is not unacceptable.
Perhaps verbal psychological abuse can cause more lasting damage.

On a personal note it would be very hard to share my life with a dependent child. It isn't like it has been very easy [perhaps until late].

We should cut all reasonable child rearers some slack as long as it doesn't border on injuriously psychotic.

There is a public face of society that promotes the notion that all children should be patronized & coddled, but there is not clinical data that demonstrates that is complete sufficiency for a healthy society.
Some [many?] of the most outstanding & even heroic people in history have troubled childhoods.
The whole means of becoming a more articulate creature entails activity that is/seems/appears torturous [discipline]. If education were all 'fun' children go to school purely on their own.

[Environment Man]

Spare the rod, spoil the child.

I was spanked. And spanked my son.

And look at how well adjusted I turned out.

[Hog Trash]

I was spanked as a child.
Probably we kids sometimes deserved it, sometimes we may have driven dad to distraction [especially while driving, crowded in the car].

It was always solely on our asses.

Sometimes children can become completely detached &/or imagine the Universe does or should revolve around them. They have to understand there are other people in the Universe who have at least as valid an existence as their own. Pain is not a 'purifier' [ala Dobson] but it does bring a certain reality to people [sometimes including ourselves] who are veering out of touch. We are requisitely sensitized to pain for fundamental self-preservation.

There are probably better ways of raising children under ideal conditions,
but there is no instruction manual or 'required training course for raising children.

If you ever strike a kid on the face or joints where you could injure or damage them you are getting out of line. The gluteus maximus is a large simpler, pure muscle. I think it is therefore less subject to lasting damage.

Ass spanking is not unacceptable.
Perhaps verbal psychological abuse can cause more lasting damage.

On a personal note it would be very hard to share my life with a dependent child. It isn't like it has been very easy [perhaps until late].

We should cut all reasonable child rearers some slack as long as it doesn't border on injuriously psychotic.

There is a public face of society that promotes the notion that all children should be patronized & coddled, but there is not clinical data that demonstrates that is complete sufficiency for a healthy society.
Some [many?] of the most outstanding & even heroic people in history have troubled childhoods.
The whole means of becoming a more articulate creature entails activity that is/seems/appears torturous [discipline]. If education were all 'fun' children go to school purely on their own.Good call disrupter.....I completely agree with your entire post.....How's that for a shocker?

I woulda whipped your ass every day if I had been your daddy but you would of probably liked it you little pervert.